Basic Sex Info 101
While the clitoris is the sexual hub of the universe for many women, it usually requires a bit of preparation to get aroused for digital or oral manipulation. Teasing and gentle petting is a great way to start stimulating the clitoris. You may wish to start out gently kissing her inner thighs, and continue your explorations from there. Licking and nibbling the other surfaces of the pussy is adored by many women. Go slowly and think fun. Since it’s hard to have a verbal conversation when you are eating pussy, you can refer to her body language, whimpers and moans, etc. for feedback. Direct clitoral stimulation is divine for some, and others prefer indirect stimulation of the clitoris, while others enjoy having the clitoris sucked. Indirect clitoral stimulation can be achieved by stroking your tongue through the channels on either side of the clitoral hood and applying pressure to the clit through the hood. Many women love a combination of all of these techniques, and other techniques that are uniquely yours. Afterward, ask for feedback and listen to her responses if you want to be the greatest lover in her world.
It's common to not have a full erection sometimes. This is true for every man. It's especially common in a situation that is new, exciting or stressful, like being with a new partner, for example. Having a fear of erection problems can often result in an erection problem. Take your time with your new partners, and have patience. Being sexually comfortable with a new partner often takes time, try being naked and touching each other for a longer period of time. Payoffs are greatly improved by this method for all parties involved. Slow deep conscious breathing can help send a message to your body and your brain to relax. There are lots of fun things to do while you’re waiting for wood.
Asking for Sex
The way you ask for sex should depend on the circumstances. Whether you use a direct approach or a slower subtle approach, your chances of getting what you ask for are much greater if you are respectful. When you ask another person for sex, you are asking them to take a risk. If they say no, it doesn’t necessarily indicate that they don’t like you. There are a multitude of reasons a person may decide against becoming intimately involved. If you accept their decision respectfully and with kindness, you stand a much better chance of getting lucky with them at a later date. After all, you’ve planted the seed and shown that you can be mature, friendly and graceful in the face of adversity, which many people find very sexy. When they say yes, it’s a great idea to discuss what each of you has in mind. This part takes practice, too. Since there are numerous ways to have sex, being on the same page before you start getting hot and heavy can help to prevent the over-stepping of personal boundaries. Communication is the most important key to becoming the amazing lover you were born to be. And to become a successful communicator takes practice, practice, practice.
About the Clitoris
The clitoris is often the most sexually sensitive part of a woman’s body. The clitoris, like the head of the penis, contains numerous concentrated bundles of nerve endings that respond gratifyingly to touch and other types of stimulation. Recent research has shown that the sensitive clitoral tissue is not just the flesh that is externally visible. The clitoris actually has 18 anatomical parts. The portion of the clitoris that one can see is just the beginning, while most of the volume of the clitoris lies beneath the surface. The clitoris and its associated nerve endings extend into a much larger area. In fact, some G-spot stimulation and anal stimulation, for women, may be in part due to of the complexities of nerve endings associated with clitoral tissue. Inside the body, the clitoral shaft separates into two legs that extend for about three inches on both sides of the vaginal opening. The entire clitoris consists of erectile tissue. During sexual arousal this tissue fills with blood and becomes stiff and sensitive. Most women are unable to achieve orgasm with vaginal stimulation alone. So understanding the clitoris is often the key to orgasm and sexual satisfaction for most women. Each woman likes different types of clitoral stimulation. Some women like direct stimulation like touching the clitoris, head on with a finger, a palm, tongue, or toy. Some women prefer indirect stimulation like touching the area around the clitoris or touching the clitoris through the clitoral hood. Some women like gentle caressing while others desire more pressure. Some like clitoral stimulation to be slow while others like it fast and firm. The best way to know how to clitorally please a woman is to ask her to give you feedback. If you listen, follow directions and practice you can learn quite a lot while making your lover wonderfully happy.
About the G-Spot
The G-spot is the spongy, ridged area on the front wall of the vagina. It is loaded with nerve endings and is an erogenous zone for many women. Not every woman finds stimulation of this area pleasant. The G-spot can best be located by inserting one or more fingers two to three inches into the vagina and stroking towards the front of the body with a "come hither" motion. Some women require quite a bit of pressure and lubricant can be very helpful for applying pressure without irritating tissue. You may or may not feel anything you can identify as a G- Spot, so rely on your partner's feedback to find your way. Most women are more likely to find G- Spot stimulation pleasurable after they are already aroused. Of those who greatly enjoy this type of stimulation, some women experience an ejaculation of fluid upon orgasm or as part of arousal. This fluid is a product of the paraurethral sponge. It is clear and odorless, and is not urine.