We’ve got the dish from sex experts on how you can have your best orgasm yet. Must-read sex advice Just can’t seem to quite get there? Or would you like your big moment to be even bigger? We’ve got the dish from sex experts on how you can have your best orgasm yet. 1. Hit the hot spots A friction position may help you have an orgasm during intercourse. Get on top, for example, so the top of your clitoris is rubbing directly on your partner’s pubic bone. Or lay on your back with a pillow underneath your butt. You may even want to try using a vibrator during intercourse, says Laura Berman, PhD, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and OB-GYN at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. She recomends the Charlie 7 Function Waterproof Silicone Vibrator for $25.59 or the Silicone Remote USB Rechargeable Curve Black Bullet for $54.99. 2. Talk the talk "Men really want direction,” Berman says. Let your partner know when he’s on the right track, either by telling him what feels great or by moaning. 3. Learn on your own You can’t talk the talk if you don’t know what turns you on. “To train your body to be orgasmic, you have to masturbate,” says Danielle Cavallucci, a sex coach with sex information company Sexuality Source.
4. Exercise your orgasm muscles “Kegels are the classic exercise for women who want to transform feeble orgasms into fabulous ones,” sex educator Dorian Solot says. Locate these muscles in your pelvic floor by stopping yourself from peeing midstream. Then tone them by clenching when you’re not peeing. Do Kegels every day, ideally a few times a day. And keep breathing while you squeeze. Cant get it right? Check out the G-Vibe Gballs 2, ($99.99) it is your personal coach for kegel exercise. Use the App to access a personalized virtual coach, 6 comprehensive training courses, a voice guide, daily target, and a fun badge and reward system. Can also be used to track daily exercise activity. Gballs have a ultra sensitive pressure sensor that ensure accuracy of biofeedback and use Bluetooth 4.0 technology. Gballs also work in non-app mode and are splash proof from Fun Toys. 5. Get risky Research shows that engaging in thrill-seeking behaviors together (whether it’s rock climbing or just going to see a scary movie) stimulates dopamine in the brain, which gets your juices flowing. 6. Delay the pleasure “The longer the arousal buildup, the bigger the explosion,” Solot says. Get yourself close to orgasm, then slow to a simmer. Repeat that a few times before you climax. 7. Focus on breathing Tantric sex may sound new-agey, but its central tenet—focused breathing—may boost your pleasure. “You can use your breath to channel your sexual energy,” sex educator Yvonne Fulbright says. Partners who breathe in tandem may slow the rush to orgasm and create a bigger buildup, which can intensify pleasure. 8. Try creative foreplay If it takes you longer than your partner to warm up, Fulbright says, get a head start by e-mailing or texting each other sexy messages (but don’t get too graphic—e-mail is not necessarily private). 9. Check your meds Women are more likely than men to take antidepressants, which are known to hurt a person’s sex life. If you’re having trouble, talk to your doctor about your meds. 10. Relax In a recent French study of 500-plus women, more than 70% said work stress compromised their sex drive. A low libido, obviously, lowers chances of orgasm. So ditch life’s distractions at your bedroom door.