Better Orgasms: 10 Secrets For Success

We have insights from sex experts on how to achieve your most satisfying orgasm yet. Struggling to reach climax? Or hoping to make it even more intense? We have insights from sex experts on how to achieve your most satisfying orgasm yet.

1. Target the Key Areas

A friction position might help you climax during intercourse. Try being on top so that the top of your clitoris is directly in contact with your partner’s pubic bone, or lie on your back with a pillow under your hips.

You might also consider using a vibrator during intercourse, suggests Laura Berman, PhD, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and OB-GYN at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. She recommends the Charlie 7 Function Waterproof Silicone Vibrator for or the Silicone Remote USB Rechargeable Curve Black Bullet.

2. Communicate Clearly

"Men appreciate guidance,” Berman notes. Let your partner know when he's doing well by either expressing what feels good or through moaning.

3. Discover on Your Own

You can't communicate effectively if you're unaware of what excites you. "To teach your body to experience orgasms, you need to masturbate," says Danielle Cavallucci, a sex coach at Sexuality Source.

4. Strengthen Your Orgasm Muscles

"Kegels are the go-to exercise for women aiming to enhance weak orgasms into spectacular ones," explains sex educator Dorian Solot. Identify these muscles in your pelvic floor by halting urination midstream. Strengthen them by contracting when you're not urinating. Perform Kegels daily, ideally several times a day, and remember to breathe while squeezing.

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5. Embrace Risk

Studies indicate that participating in thrilling activities together, like rock climbing or watching a horror movie, can trigger dopamine release in the brain, enhancing excitement.

6. Postpone Gratification

“The longer the buildup of arousal, the more intense the release,” says Solot. Approach the point of orgasm, then ease back. Repeat this cycle a few times before reaching climax.

7. Focus on Breathing

Although tantric sex may seem unusual, its fundamental concept—mindful breathing—can increase pleasure. “Breathing can be used to channel sexual energy,” says sex educator Yvonne Fulbright. Couples who align their breathing may delay orgasm, leading to a greater buildup and intensified pleasure.

8. Explore Creative Foreplay

If you take longer than your partner to get aroused, Fulbright suggests starting early by emailing or texting each other seductive messages (but avoid being too explicit—email is not always private).

9. Review Your Medications

Women are more likely than men to use antidepressants, which can negatively impact one’s sex life. If you’re experiencing issues, consult your doctor about your medications.

10. Unwind

A recent French study of over 500 women found that more than 70% reported that work stress affected their sex drive. A reduced libido naturally decreases the likelihood of orgasm. Leave life’s distractions outside the bedroom.