There is something exciting about playing with the delicate and sensitive human neck. Even in movies, when a man dresses a woman with a necklace, a kind of sensual excitement feels the air. From that moment on, she is the submissive and he the dominant. Never said out loud, but we know and she knows, she is marked for ownership.
This similar excitement and message of ownership is what makes bondage collars ever so popular. Once a collar is worn to a submissive in a BDSM play, it conveys submission, ownership and vulnerability. And the aesthetic does lead to heart racing sexual arousal. It is a fashion and personal statement of accepting that you are owned and wanted by another, a feeling so gratifying for most kinky lovers.
We know you are excited to skip all this to the products portfolios. If you already live the BDSM lifestyle, be free to skip. But for collaring beginners, please read on. There are a few things you need to consider when choosing bondage collars.
Things to Consider when Choosing a Bondage Collar
Decide on the Type
Bondage collars come in different designed, each with unique bondage features. Some are suitable for rope-play, discipline- type of bondage, among other BDSM scenes. Choose a collar that fits your scenes and fantasies.
Here is an overview of common collar types:
Slave Collar- crafted with ease of use, they are made of soft leather or rubber and fitted with fastening buckles to the back (such that the slave must be dressed by their master). The front of the collar is attached with an O-ring or D-ring. This allows the dominant to attach leashes, rope or cuffs for a complete mediaeval slave look and feel. You can take it a notch higher by binding his penis and ankles to the collar to restrict movement.
Leash and Collar – the collar come with an already attached matching leash. Some are removal for when you want other attachments. They are perfect for obedient –discipline plays.
Clamp and Collar- the collar come attached with nipple clamps or clito-clamps for an extra stimulation. It is perfect for movement bondage, any slight move of the neck or body pulls the nipples or clit unleashing a self-inflicted pain that can drive you to the edge. With this on, your submissive is completely under your command.
Decide on Height
Once you have settled on the type, decide the desired height. Collars come in varying widths from slim to extremely long necklines, known as posture collars. If you a want short-term BDSM scene, you can choose a posture collar to keep your submissive looking sharp and straight. But if planning a night out with your partner that may take hours, a slim and light collar will be more comfortable.
Know your Size
For your collar to fit perfectly, you need to get the right size range and master the fastening. To measure your neck size, wrap a tape measure around the base of your neck for circumference (neck base is the part connecting to the shoulders). Most reputable retailers like Pleasures will list the total wearable length of the collar. Compare your measurements with the product portfolio for your fit.
Decide on the Different Fasteners
Each collar has a different fastening mechanism. The most standard include buckles, Velcro or bows. There are others that have lockable buckles which allow you to collar- lock your partner. These are perfect for slave-master BDSM plays because a slave cannot remove the collar unless the key holder permits it. Choose fasteners that are comfortable and easy to unfasten. For safety reasons, do not leave your partner alone when collared. If they have trouble swallowing or breathing, loosen the collar. The neck is delicately sensitive and even the slightest constriction can cause suffocation and restricted blood flow to the brain- both tragic results.
Decide on the Desired Materials
Collars are made from different materials including leather, rubber, neoprene, suede, faux fur among others. Although the material choice is entirely dependent on your personal preferences and fetish desires, go for comfortable and easy to clean materials. Leather is a popular favorite because of the masculine sensation it brings to the play. However, it can be hard to clean and sterilize. So, if your play involves multiple partners and fluids such as lubricants and water might be used, it might not be your best choice. Neoprene has a soft snug feel and waterproof, in the case you want to engage in a water play. It also has a hardcore look that makes the submissive look naughty and exciting, a feeling hankered by many knickers.
Decide on a color
Bondage collars come in varying colors to add a visual enticement to the games. Black is the most popular. But other colors such as red, pink, purple and more are available. Browse Pleasures online to select a color that turns you on.
How to Wear a Bondage Collar, Safely
We cannot stress this enough; the neck is a very sensitive part of your body. It is therefore extremely important that your collar fits comfortably without restricting breathing or blood flow. When wearing the collar, slip in two fingers underneath the neck before fastening. It will be easier if your let your partner do this for you. Once you have a right tightness, try swallowing and deep breathing to make sure you are not at all hindered. If you feel any discomfort, the collar may be too tight or chafing. Loose the buckles or apply a little lube to smoothen the surface.
Do not sharply yank on the collar, strong tugging can cause serious life altering injuries to your partner, and you definitely don’t want to live with that.
Bondage collars are meant to excite and awaken you sensual instincts for volcanic, toe-curling sexual performance. Visit Pleasures to buy BDSM collars and introduce kinky play into your playroom. Savour the enticement of a well-adorned neck. Maybe even collar and nipple clamp your partner and make them moan with a bittersweet fusion of pleasure.
