Make Your Anal Sex Experience Amazing

Begin in the Bathroom

In life, and during anal sex, unexpected things can occur. Consuming a lot of fiber, maintaining regular bowel movements, and using the bathroom before engaging in sex can help reduce the likelihood of any mishaps during anal sex. It's generally recommended to wait a few hours after eating and having a bowel movement before engaging in sexual activity. While this may seem like a lengthy time to plan for sex, isn't anticipation a key element of mental foreplay?

Some individuals include enemas in their pre-anal sex routine, but they aren't absolutely necessary and can disrupt your body's natural pH balance. To ensure cleanliness, especially if your partner will be near your anus with their penis, strap-on, hands, or mouth, it's considerate for them and boosts your confidence to be extra thorough in your pre-sex shower. However, avoid being too harsh with the shower pouf, as causing micro cuts in that sensitive area can increase the risk of infection.

Lube it up

This isn't a sequential 'step 3' where you do it and then proceed to the next step. Instead, it's something to keep in mind throughout every stage of anal sex. Unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn't self-lubricate when aroused, so you'll need to apply a significant amount of lubricant yourself. We typically recommend starting with a generous amount on both the receiving anus and whatever will be penetrating it.

You can use either water-based or silicone-based lubricant, as both have advantages and disadvantages for anal sex. Silicone-based lube tends to 'last longer' because it isn't absorbed into the skin as quickly, but it's not safe to use with your silicone sex toys like water-based lube is.

Warm Up

In almost every sexual encounter, foreplay should be considered essential, as it helps set the right mood and allows your body to relax. Begin with kisses, cuddles, and other intimate gestures, and then either you or your partner can gently provide anal stimulation using a finger.

Additionally, you can use a butt plug during foreplay or vaginal intercourse (after some preparation) to help your body adapt to a different size, making subsequent insertion and thrusting much smoother.

Use a Condom

Covering the penis with a condom provides a smoother, more consistent surface that will glide more easily with lubricant. It can also slightly reduce sensitivity, which may help your partner delay their orgasm due to the ‘tighter’ fit compared to a mouth or vagina.

Using a condom during anal sex also simplifies cleanup afterward and makes it easier if you want to switch to vaginal or oral sex. A general rule to remember: if it goes into the butt, it shouldn't go anywhere else without being cleaned or covered with a new condom. No, we didn’t come up with a funny saying for this because bacterial infections are no joke

Find the Right Position

The advantages and disadvantages of various anal sex positions can vary greatly from person to person. It's important to remember that doggy-style isn't the only option. While it offers excellent control over thrusts and angles, you and your partner might favor a more intimate position, such as missionary, which allows for kissing and plenty of eye contact.

Go Slow

When we say ‘go slow,’ we’re not referring to slow thrusting. Anal sex isn’t something you dive into quickly; the penetrating partner should enter gradually, pause, engage in kissing, and stimulate erogenous zones before proceeding a little further, repeating this process.

Since your body is designed to expel rather than accommodate, unlike a vagina that adjusts its shape and size during arousal, you need to proceed more cautiously. Once you’re fully relaxed, you can transition to a faster, more intense pace, but don’t expect it to mirror what you see in porn.

COMMUNICATE With Your Partner

Almost every article we write emphasizes the significance of communication for a satisfying sexual experience, and anal sex is no exception.

Need more lube? Communicate with your partner. Want to pick up the pace? Communicate with your partner. Not feeling it and want to switch things up? Communicate with your partner!

We're far from having brain-implanted cell phones for communication, so yes, you need to verbally express to your partner how you’re feeling and what you desire. It doesn't have to be awkward; it can be part of your dirty talk, which, in our view, is the ingredient that makes all sex twice as enjoyable!